Defining right and wrong can get too complicated if one is asked to define it. What seems right to one may be wrong in another’s perspective. Most of us experience the confusion of what to be done when it comes to very sensitive issues in relationships. What may seem right to you may be perceived wrong by another. Sometimes, interrogating oneself may reveal that what we thought was right perhaps was perceived as wrong in our beloved’s mind. Is it really perceived wrong or is our mind too egoistic to accept the fact that we were wrong.
My reflection today is based on a personal experience of mine that taught me a very special lesson. A lesson that I thought was worth sharing. At the end of this article you will learn why I call this a special lesson.
My husband loves watching a particular sport. In the evening after we get back home from work, most of our Tuesday and Wednesday evenings evaporate into this sport. When he is not watching this sport he is working till he dozes off. I found it very strange that he gets lost in the sport and work, ignoring me. At first I started resenting this particular behavior of his. Being a part of a joint family we only have the weekday evenings for ourselves. I thought to myself that what he was doing was not fair and it is entirely wrong and unacceptable. We had several arguments about this behavior which only aggravated the difficulty without rendering any solution. Both were losing our peace of mind.
It is a little more than a year that we are married now. In all of this one year we have together seen a lot of ups and downs. If I have to really scale them all they would balance out each other and stand cancelled. Every negative feeling we developed towards each other had a very positive feeling that cancelled out the negative feeling and strike a balance. Now, after a year I feel that my husband loves me just so so much and he just cares for me more than my parents do. So, why I am bothered by a sport that he loves watching and enjoys watching. Did it take him away from me? Did it make him love me any less? NO. So why it did always occur to me that this behavior was wrong? Now, after a year, I see myself as someone who had perceived the whole thing as wrong or gross behavior.
He still continues to watch the game… what more I have become a fan too! The game has brought us all the more closer. We have quality time of togetherness…just him and me 🙂
Is’nt it a special lesson ?
I love surprises! I have always wanted to marry a person who would give me surprise gifts and events. As soon as we were engaged, my husband and I had almost 4 beautiful months of courtship. Though we were a sea apart from each other, there was not a single day I remember that we did not speak to each other. My mobile phone was my twin all these 4 months. I never part from it at all. I used to share every event that happened everyday with my husband. It always seemed that we have so much to speak and very less time. Late night talks, early morning talks, less sleep, more time on talking… and then when I finally hang up, I would still have so much that I have not spoken at all. That is signature courtship. Everyone who have gone through this phase of life may understand what I mean.
Very busy life! Totally hectic hours in office… after hours with my fiancé on phone… it was one of the fine phases of life that was worth living through.
One dark late evening, as I walked out of office… a red ford almost rammed into me. Totally panicking, and gripped in death fear I looked at the driver. I could not believe my stupidity… it can only happen in movies… how is it possible that I could see my fiancé driving, he is not even in the country. I really had to take a second look to confirm whether out of the blue it was him. And yes! It was him… that was surprise beyond words! He was actually in India.
This is not the only surprise, he has surprised me with goodies on Valentine’s day, birthday, wedding day, wedding anniversary, and many other days with rose bouquets, chocolates, soft toys, greeting cards and many many more. He always carefully plans things and makes it all fall in place just at the right time. He is so meticulous and a great planner! But none of these surprises stirred my soul as much as what he did this friendship day.
I had a call late afternoon on friendship day this year, a very surprised and crazy voice spoke, after speaking with a lot of emotion, it told me thank you for the nice rose bouquet and the goodies. I was taken by surprise. The call was from my close friend, who has not just stood by me at happy times, but at all times, has cared for me like a mother, and means more than a friend to me. My friend , Jiji! I quickly turned to my husband who was helping me with cleaning the house. The most loveliest grin was on his face. I was touched. He remembered to acknowledge the woman who deserves all of this and more on a very special day meant to remember her kindness. My baby Teddy Bear you are the best husband anyone can ever find! People can think about themselves. It takes an extraordinary person to think of people who mean so much to their spouse. Thanks for being the way you are. Love u so much.
I am sure what strike past your mind when you read the title. Yes, what you will read here is an account of my encounter with my first love. Ever since the existence of human race, what people seek after and want is LOVE. All of us seek after love and want to be loved. It is this love that has helped the human race grow. It is this that has helped us to be cordial and considerate with each other. It is this that still keeps our species alive. I would not say that love is a unique emotion with human beings. However, I know for sure that love is the most sought after and priceless possession. Half the prisons around the world would be empty if people practiced or were shown love.
The Bible says, “love thy God….. and love thy neighbor as thyself… on this hangs all the law” (Matthew 22:39).
If love was not so integral, then Jesus Christ himself would not have pointed out that all the laws hang on this small single word principle called “LOVE”.
If I am asked to define love, I probably may not be successful in defining them in words. Love encompasses everything that cannot be put down in words. It is a very special feeling that only the soul feels. All of us at some point in time would have been in love. Sometimes, reflecting back on them, we may feel foolish, or perhaps even have tears rolling down our cheeks. However, they all would remain as sweet memories for years to come.
When I opened my eyes, I saw a completely different world before me. Everything looked new. A never before feeling filled my heart. I was anxious, did not know anyone around me. The beeps of the hospital room scared me. I could not help but cry. I cried loudly. And, then, in a twinkle of the eye, someone held me so close to themselves. I felt a familiar warmth of the body and the tenderness of love all around me. A tight grip, a fine hug, and a fond kiss. A safe feeling enshrouded me. I lay there for sometime so cozily amid the odds.
I opened my eyes again to see who it was, it was my mother, my first love!